i had clear skin before a lot of my life and i would date a nice girl with acne no problem cause im a handsome guy with acne i know what it feels like. Theres someone out there for you don't worry. It'll go away your only 16, stress is your worst enemy and the number 1 cause of acne. That worry you have causes more stress, you need to meditate, do yoga, get your mind off of things and It will improve. That's the hard part tho especially if you have OCD which I believe many of us acne suffers have or develop.

I'm starting a new school soon (i haven't started it earlier since I don't live in America) and very worried about dating. I'm a 16 year old girl with moderate to severe acne who just started accutane a few days ago.

I'm very anxious about school and scared that I'll be made fun of...I also am scared I'll never get a boyfriend looking like this. My makeup covers up acne pretty well, but I think that if I'm in a serious relationship with someone, I'm pretty sure they'll want to see me the way I am. I've been in relationships before, but my acne was never this bad in them. All the girls I know who have boyfriends have completely clear skin.

 

Even if I don't get into a relationship, I'm terrified of being bullied. I was bullied through elementary and middle school and it still makes me feel awful about myself to think about it. So many people that I used to be friends with made fun of people with acne..I wonder if they would still be friends with me now seeing me full of zits and blemishes.

 

Accutane obviously won't cure my acne by the time I start school, so everyone's first impression of me will probably be bad . Sure, my skin may clear up later, but everyone will still remember me as that girl who started school with severe acne.

 

Also, a question for whoever reads this; would you date a person with acne?

 

I forgot to add this earlier, I am extremely awkward and shy, which I think makes dating even more difficult

I would date a girl with acne.

I started dating my now fiance when I had cystic acne. He's ridiculously good looking, gets like 1 pimple a year and I never thought I had a chance. Everyone in my work had a crush on him but for some insane reason he chose me - the girl with cystic acne. But 6 years later we're soon to be married!

There's always going to be people that are complete bad eggs and hate and bully people with acne but there are also people who really don't care that much how bad someone's skin is, and sadly sometimes we find out the hard way who is worth talking to. Both in a friendship and a relationship way. I only found this out when I hit rock bottom. I would hide myself away and never speak up for myself, completely shy and awkward until one day I dunno what happened I just snapped and was like 'Nah, only I get to affect myself'. In school I never really got bullied for my acne(more for my glasses) but one really charming guy said to me "If you had a pound for every zit you had youd be a millionaire". I snapped and pointed out one of his flaws and he never said anything to me ever again. That's the day I realised bullies do what they do because for some reason or other they are totally insecure. Any other time I just called out bullies buy saying "I feel sorry for you" it completely confused them lol.

As for your friends, if they are TRULY your friends they will STILL be your friend. Acne or no acne. You are still the same great person!!

Sorry for the big wall of text and if I haven't helped at all! But I wish you lots of luck on your accutane course

If you do get bullied, don't worry about. Just remember, after high school, you probably won't even see any of those people again. They certainly won't be thinking of you every night 10 years from now.

I would date someone with bad acne. But not everyone will. If the person you crush on doesn't, who cares. There's people who are better than that out there. Like ihateusernamesx found someone. Just don't live with any regrets.

If you do get bullied, don't worry about. Just remember, after high school, you probably won't even see any of those people again. They certainly won't be thinking of you every night 10 years from now.

 

I would date someone with bad acne. But not everyone will. If the person you crush on doesn't, who cares. There's people who are better than that out there. Like ihateusernamesx found someone. Just don't live with any regrets.

I am sorry, but it may never stop. I still see bullies every single day. One of the major bullies are my parents neighbours and I still visit my parents. He still treats me as I am air. They are real psychopaths. The damage can be great and permanent. I can know, I live in a mental institution.

On 9/27/2015 at 0:51 AM, ihateusernamesx said:

I started dating my now fiance when I had cystic acne. He's ridiculously good looking, gets like 1 pimple a year and I never thought I had a chance. Everyone in my work had a crush on him but for some insane reason he chose me - the girl with cystic acne. But 6 years later we're soon to be married!

There's always going to be people that are complete bad eggs and hate and bully people with acne but there are also people who really don't care that much how bad someone's skin is, and sadly sometimes we find out the hard way who is worth talking to. Both in a friendship and a relationship way. I only found this out when I hit rock bottom. I would hide myself away and never speak up for myself, completely shy and awkward until one day I dunno what happened I just snapped and was like 'Nah, only I get to affect myself'. In school I never really got bullied for my acne(more for my glasses) but one really charming guy said to me "If you had a pound for every zit you had youd be a millionaire". I snapped and pointed out one of his flaws and he never said anything to me ever again. That's the day I realised bullies do what they do because for some reason or other they are totally insecure. Any other time I just called out bullies buy saying "I feel sorry for you" it completely confused them lol.

As for your friends, if they are TRULY your friends they will STILL be your friend. Acne or no acne. You are still the same great person!!

 

Sorry for the big wall of text and if I haven't helped at all! But I wish you lots of luck on your accutane course

These words are so inspirational! I wish there were posts on what it's like to date or be in a relationship when you have acne(especially if you go bare faced or your significant other knows about the condition of your skin).
I'm in a dark place when it comes to dating at this point. There is a boy I like who likes me back, but he asked me out when I was completely clear a couple of months ago. And he's only seen me with clear skin. Now that my acne is REALLY bad, I've been avoiding him like the plague. What makes matters worse is that his skin is PERFECT.