Have you tried The Regimen? I highly recommend you check it out. It includes benzoyl peroxide and dries people out like you're saying, but that dryness/redness/irritation is normal and goes away after a month or so. You just have to stick with it. I've coached many people through it and they all get clear. I've coached people who look just like you actually and people who look like you tend to get pretty quick results actually.

You also want to leave your skin alone so that's great that you're not picking any more. Definitely keep that up. Also keep up with the good diet. You want to avoid processed foods and high-glycemic stuff when you can. Eat real food.

Couple other questions:

1. Are you physically irritating your skin in any other way other than picking?
2. Are you using makeup? If so, what kind and for how long have you been using it?